This post goes out to all of the pregnant ladies (all the pregnant ladies! Put your hands up!)! I didn’t know what to expect when I was expecting… except there were a few things that I heard repeatedly from people that made me a little nervous to have a baby. There was no turning back, so I listened to these things with a fake smile on my face while I envisioned being locked up inside my house with a baby that never went to sleep for the first year. The whole “life will never be the same” made me want to snap after about 112th time I’d heard it… because while people intend it to be well-meaning, it just comes across as a little scary.
Statements to ignore while you’re pregnant:
1. “Travel now, because you won’t get the chance again until they are in college!”
- First of all, who wants to travel when you can’t drink wine? Stupid advice. Stay at home and Netflix a good TV series. I watched 6 seasons of Grey’s Anatomy back-to-back. It was awesome.
- BTW, you can still travel. You’ll just be traveling with a trunk full of baby gear.
- Finally, this makes it sound like a bad thing. Yes, travel plans are a little different – but it’s not like I’m sitting around wanting to travel & I can’t… you couldn’t pay me to take a vacation without our baby. When you’re a mom, you want short breaks, not a vacation away from being a mom. Because you love spending time with your baby.
2. “Get some sleep now, because you won’t when the baby arrives”
- This one REALLY irked me. Because people say it ALL OF THE TIME.
- News Flash: Babies sleep. And so can you. You don’t get uninterrupted sleep… but they SLEEP.
- Just make sure you have a husband that responds to “yourrrrr turn”
3. Are you having twins?
- Only one person asked me this. A cute, petite, very skinny, non-pregnant girl in a maternity store. She should know better.
- Never EVER say this to a pregnant woman – even if you’re joking. If you do, what happens next is completely your own fault.
And two not to ignore because they speak the truth:
4. Enjoy every minute, because before you know it, they are off to college.
- This one, I didn’t mind so much because it indicated that having a baby is fun and enjoyable. And that’s the absolute truth!!!
5. You will get pregnancy brain and become very flakey and forgetful.
- This is not a myth. I did all kinds of crazy things when I was pregnant. I put things where they don’t belong, I had to write EVERYTHING down or I’d forget it, and I’d even say weird, nonsensical things.
- For example, I was having breakfast at my dad’s house. No one could find the creamer. I’d just had it seconds ago, but it wasn’t in the fridge. We found it in the cabinet next to the plates.
- The worst: I took our dog for a walk. Instead of throwing away his poo bag, I put it back in the drawer with the empty poo bags. Ewwwps.
When you’re showing, you’ll hear all kinds of stories. TUNE THEM OUT. One friend scared the crap out of me by telling me about a co-worker that didn’t know she was in labor and nearly had the baby in her car. AHHH! Just say “mmm hmmm” and think about something else until their lips stop moving.
So here’s my unsolicited advice – because you’ll get a LOT of it – just relax & enjoy the pregnancy. OH- and make sure your hospital AND your doctor are both covered under your insurance. I found out the only hospital where my doctor would deliver was not covered… and that would have cost us the equivalent of a new car. So, call your insurance and work that out now.