This post goes out to all of the pregnant ladies (all the pregnant ladies! Put your hands up!)! I didn’t know what to expect when I was expecting… except there were a few things that I heard repeatedly from people that made me a little nervous to have a baby. There was no turning back, so I listened to these things with a fake smile on my face while I envisioned being locked up inside my house with a baby that never went to sleep for the first year. The whole “life will never be the same” made me want to snap after about 112th time I’d heard it… because while people intend it to be well-meaning, it just comes across as a little scary.
Statements to ignore while you’re pregnant:
1. “Travel now, because you won’t get the chance again until they are in college!”
- First of all, who wants to travel when you can’t drink wine? Stupid advice. Stay at home and Netflix a good TV series. I watched 6 seasons of Grey’s Anatomy back-to-back. It was awesome.
- BTW, you can still travel. You’ll just be traveling with a trunk full of baby gear.
- Finally, this makes it sound like a bad thing. Yes, travel plans are a little different – but it’s not like I’m sitting around wanting to travel & I can’t… you couldn’t pay me to take a vacation without our baby. When you’re a mom, you want short breaks, not a vacation away from being a mom. Because you love spending time with your baby.
2. “Get some sleep now, because you won’t when the baby arrives”
- This one REALLY irked me. Because people say it ALL OF THE TIME.
- News Flash: Babies sleep. And so can you. You don’t get uninterrupted sleep… but they SLEEP.
- Just make sure you have a husband that responds to “yourrrrr turn”
3. Are you having twins?
- Only one person asked me this. A cute, petite, very skinny, non-pregnant girl in a maternity store. She should know better.
- Never EVER say this to a pregnant woman – even if you’re joking. If you do, what happens next is completely your own fault.
And two not to ignore because they speak the truth:
4. Enjoy every minute, because before you know it, they are off to college.
- This one, I didn’t mind so much because it indicated that having a baby is fun and enjoyable. And that’s the absolute truth!!!
5. You will get pregnancy brain and become very flakey and forgetful.
- This is not a myth. I did all kinds of crazy things when I was pregnant. I put things where they don’t belong, I had to write EVERYTHING down or I’d forget it, and I’d even say weird, nonsensical things.
- For example, I was having breakfast at my dad’s house. No one could find the creamer. I’d just had it seconds ago, but it wasn’t in the fridge. We found it in the cabinet next to the plates.
- The worst: I took our dog for a walk. Instead of throwing away his poo bag, I put it back in the drawer with the empty poo bags. Ewwwps.
When you’re showing, you’ll hear all kinds of stories. TUNE THEM OUT. One friend scared the crap out of me by telling me about a co-worker that didn’t know she was in labor and nearly had the baby in her car. AHHH! Just say “mmm hmmm” and think about something else until their lips stop moving.
So here’s my unsolicited advice – because you’ll get a LOT of it – just relax & enjoy the pregnancy. OH- and make sure your hospital AND your doctor are both covered under your insurance. I found out the only hospital where my doctor would deliver was not covered… and that would have cost us the equivalent of a new car. So, call your insurance and work that out now.
Just had to stop by and comment from 31dbbb. LOVED this post, I am 32 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby. I am 5’3 and have a short torso, the only way I can go it OUT. I always look HUGE and always get the “are you sure its not twins” question. It always makes me feel horrible!!! Thanks for the post! Great job!
ha! rude comments + hormones = angry pregnant ladies. They deserve a smack down (or at least a REALLY dirty look!)
Stopping by from SITS! Love this list! It is so true. I really like the one about “are you having twins” I had the misfortune of gaining a load and I swear I was about to go crazy if some one asked me one more time! LOL It always seems that when you are pregnant its okay for some one to comment on how big you are!
Seriously – it is NOT OK – ever- to make any sort of reference to a woman’s weight while pregnant!!
So perfect and so true. You and I agree
This was hilarious and so true. We couldn’t find the cheese one night to shred for dinner, and I had just made a snack of cheese and crackers earlier in the day. here the heck could it have gone? I woke up at 3am and said to myself, “You threw that damn cheese in the trash!” Unfortunately, my brain never came back.
Hello Good Morning, I am visiting from SITS, Congrats on your feature day. I have to agree with all of these… Lovely post written with good humor… Yes, you do have to enjoy them before they are off to college.
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Oh my gosh I can’t believe people actually say those things to women when they are pregnant…Isn’t it bad enough that there is no turning back now…ha!
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Love your blog – and this post definitely rings true!
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Came over to say HI from SITS.
Congrats on your day…how exciting.
Going to poke around a little now, and get to know you.
Pleased to meet you. Enjoy your special day.
I enjoyed reading this post, because I’ve certainly heard all of these things too when I was pregnant. (By the way, I still have pregnancy brain. Does that EVER go away?!)
The other annoying thing people do when you’re pregnant? They feel like they can pet your belly. Even strangers! Not cool!
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Kristina
All of these are so very true! I just had my first 8 months ago, and couldn’t agree more. Great post!
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I agree completely, especially with the first two. Your life doesn’t end with kids, it just changes.
I’m visiting from SITS! I can totally understand this list. My favorite is when people say “Sleep now, you’ll need it for when the baby comes.” Like you can stock up on sleep or something? Ha!
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Just stopped by from SITS. I have no children, but I still think some of these are hilarious. People need to just keep their mouths shut. I had to wear an EEG monitor for 24 hours once and EVERYONE commented. What is it about certain conditions that people think gives them carte blanche to opine?
LOL…I dont have any kids but I think I heard people say all that stuff to my sister when she was pregnant. She just looked at them and say I am not pregnant I am fat. She is a bit twisted.
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This is great………and I’ve always wanted to do a whole series on, “What not to say when……….” There are really limitless possibilities!
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Fun post!! I remember hearing most of those, especially the sleep one. And I’m thinking that I tell moms-to-be that one to this day. Oops.
You should do a five QUESTIONS you’ll get tired of asking:
1. Is it your first?
2. Are you excited?
3. When are you due?
4. Do you know if it’s a girl or a boy?
5. Do you have a name picked out?
I swear, I wanted to get tee-shirts made!
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Hah! I’m barely pregnant with my first (like 10 weeks) and the few people I’ve told have already said all these things to me. Then I tell them Husband and I are going on vacation a month after my due date and they’re like “what are you going to do with the baby?” Uh…bring it with? I’m sure its grandma and great-grandma will be more than happy to watch it sleep and give it a bazillion kisses while I sunbath on the deck for an hour. Life goes on, even with babies.
I never have advice or comments for pregnant women. Oops, that’s not true. I always have one questions: has a stranger touched your belly yet? That just creeps me out and cracks me up at the same time!
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Yes it is true about mommy brain. I was very forgetful during my pregnancy. I also got to the point that if I dropped a pencil on the floor, it stayed there until my husband came home from work. Every time I bent over, I felt like my guts were going to get pushed out my mouth. I know that’s gross but that is what it felt like. Anyway, women who tell birth horror stories to first time expectant moms or those who are thinking about having a baby really irk me.
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What fun advice – my hubs and I are working our way to this stage and I hope to gather all these stories as an advice book for him when we finally are expecting.
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