I have fifteen+ years experience as a professional event planner. I’ve planned events for 12 people and festivals for 5,000. I’ve managed events with high-profile speakers (the Bush sisters, former first daughters! Newt Gingrich, former speaker of the house! Arthur Blank, founder of the Home Depot! Shirley Franklin, mayor of Atlanta!) and survived high-stress situations (sprinklers going off at a festival! Caterer getting locked in an elevator! 1000 more people showing up than expected!)
Yet, I managed to mess up the simplest of parties. (!) Here are the sordid details:
A diaper shower for a work friend should be the easiest baby party to throw – everyone can contribute around $10 and not feel pressured to give a big gift or peruse a complicated gift registry. Ask everyone to bring diapers, get a couple boxes of donuts, and abracadabra!! Diaper shower work par-tay! Expecting mom doesn’t have to endure an awkward gift-opening among co-workers (“oooh! A hooter hider! Just what I needed to conceal my boobs in public while my baby is nursing! Thanks, Bob the Accountant!”). And most obvious: diapers are essential for the baby’s first year so the gift is appreciated.
I was asked to head up the diaper shower party-planning efforts for my friend and coworker.
In the email invitation to our office distribution list (I think it included some clip art… classy), each group was instructed to buy a certain size diaper, but there was no mention of a specific diaper brand. So the new mom had a hodge-podge of Pampers, Luvs, and Huggies.
Finding the best diaper for your baby is like finding the best-fitting bra: just because it’s the right size, does not mean it will do its job. And I KNOW this because I have had two children, and was super picky about diaper brands. MOM FRIEND FAIL. (Thankfully, she still talks to me.)
The mom friend I failed put herself in charge of the next baby shower (obviously, to protect the innocent) and her diaper shower party planning skills were forehead-smacking obvious, because this is how it should be done: she simply collected money, then purchased the right brand of diapers (Honest Co.) for the new mom. Mom friend win.